My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. We love each other dearly but we can’t stop fighting. Every time one of us has a bad day or doesn’t get enough sleep or knocks something over we seem to argue. I’m not sure what to do at this point or how to bring it up to him without inciting an argument. How do I get out of this?
-Sick of Yelling
This is a problem a lot of couples run into. It can be sad to think about but you really have two options. You can work things out or break up. If you’re afraid of confronting him, you need to get over it. Woman up. It’s not an issue you should be living with so you need to confront him about it. Don’t bring it up unwarranted because he may think you’re just picking an argument. But the next time you two are fighting tell him that you want to stop. Try to calm down the conversation first so that you’re talking about your fights not fighting about your fights. Constantly arguing isn’t good for a couple and if it continues the relationship won’t last long. You two need to find a way to work through it whether that means spending more time together (or less time together). Suggest that when one of you is angry TALK about it. Another simple thing is to count to twenty before you say anything. It may seem silly but those little gaps will force you to think about what you say.
But at the same time arguments are very serious. If this continues and you two can’t work it out then you need to consider breaking up. Sometimes you can love someone but things just don’t work and while that’s sad, it’s just a fact of life. It’s not good to be in a relationship if you’re not happy, but always try to work things out first.
~Sue Z. Maroon