Dear Sue: “Bye Roomie”
My roommate this year has it stuck in her head that we’d be rooming again next year. She’s not terrible, but I don’t want to live with her again. How do I tell her that I don’t want to be roommates again without hurting her feelings?
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It’s always going to be an awkward situation when two people want different things, but you have to move past that. If you don’t want to live with her, you just have to tell her. She will be more hurt finding out you picked a room and didn’t have her listed as your roommate. One of the skills you have to learn as you become an adult is breaking hard news to people.
Housing selection begins on Monday, so you’re kind of in a time crunch to let her know. The next time she brings it up, which will probably be soon, tell her that you were planning on rooming with another friend next year/ getting a single/ whatever you plan on doing. Odds are she won’t be as hurt as you think. If she is hurt, you only have to look at her sad puppy dog eyes for a few more weeks, because the semester is almost over.
Even though you won’t be roommates, it doesn’t mean you can’t be friends anymore. Don’t make a big deal out of the situation and distance her. Instead, joke around and hang out like you normally would and she’ll get over not being roommates again. If you distance her, that would hurt her feelings and make it feel like not being roommates was a personal issue.
Good luck, and remember to be nice about it.
Sue Z. Maroon